Quora: 既然讨厌中国人,为什么越南女人会嫁给中国男人

Why are Vietnamese women marrying Chinese men if they supposedly hate Chinese? 既然讨厌中国人,为什么越南女人会嫁给中国男人 quora网友讨论
Banh Dau
Answered Feb 13
Most Vietnamese women who marry Chinese men, who are mostly from poor rural areas, also come from poor rural families. They are usually not highly educated, and do not know much about China. Thus they do not know that life in rural China is only a little better than life in rural Vietnam, and agree to marry Chinese men in the hope for better life, and a chance to help their families. Women in the cities (even poorer ones) rarely marry Chinese men, since they are much better informed. 嫁给中国男人的越南女人,大多数来自贫穷的农村,通常受教育程度不高,对中国不大了解。 殊不知,中国农村的生活,比越南农村的生活好不到哪里去。 带着对美好生活的憧憬,以及婚后能够资助家人的期望,她们同意嫁给中国男人。 越南城市里的女人(即便比较穷的),也很少嫁给中国男人的,她们对中国了解更多啊。
 
Ngọc Tường, studied Global Economy & Global Policy at University of Technology - HCM City, VietNam (2017)
Answered Dec 2
Funny fact so-called “Vietnamese women marrying Chinese men “ . It look like Your Question want to focus Chinese PRC - Vietnam case.?? “越南女人嫁给中国男人”?搞笑。 There are many Chinese ( Chinese PRC, Chinese Taiwanese, Chinese Southeast Asia, Chinese living in Western) also Taiwan island not yet official belong to China PRC . =>Only this case only Taiwanese Chinese more marry Vietnamese . the rest “Chinese” are not popular even rarely 中国人有很多啊,有中国大陆的,有中国台湾的,东南亚也有中国人,西方也生活着不少中国人。台湾目前并不归中国大陆管啊。娶越南女人的,大多是台湾的中国人。 => I only See Taiwanese Chinese marry Vietnamese one in the past but its 10 years ago , That I see search many Local article and Facebook, , 我只见过台湾人娶越南女人的,不过是10年前的事情了。 Vietnam - Taiwan have better relationship than Vietnam- China, That is the main reason
But I see that Today it rarely Vietnamese women choice Chinese Taiwan men : In the past Maybe some Vietnamese women marry Taiwanese , I even dont see any Chinese- Vietnam couples story in Vietnamese social, there are very rarely to hear that ,
Many Young Vietnamese love Korea ,Japanese , Western appear in Vietnamese TV, Vietnamese gameshow even ton of South korea Youtuber do ton of Vlog about Vietnam, that is the most Countries Vietnamese more know about them
If you walking on street and ask Vietnamese women top countries they like, I bet there are not Chinese in top 5 , that is fact, There are no bias or hate here
Chinese men also Not top men that Vietnamese like , the real top:
=> Japanes , Korea , Western men More popular in Vietnam social media than Chinese I read some articles said that Many Vietnamese tribal hill women in orders being kidnapped by Chinese PRC => Vietnamese police also hunt Chinese PRC for this, be aware Chinese PRC men while they near the border , => Only this case I see Chinese PRC can marry Vietnamese women ( but its Tribal hill) => Change the Title “ Why are Some Vietnamese women marrying Chinese Taiwanese men” , No hated to Chinese generally 主要原因是,越南和台湾的关系,比越南和中国大陆的关系更友好。 如今,选择嫁给台湾男人的越南女人也很少了。过去,也许有一些越南女人嫁给台湾男人。但是我没见过中国大陆和越南搭配的,闻所未闻。许多越南年轻人喜欢韩国和日本... 走在越南大街上,问越南女人最喜欢哪些国家,前5个国家肯定没有中国。 中国男人也不是越南女人的首选,真正的首选是 日本人、韩国人,西方人,这些国家的人在越南社交媒体上更受欢迎。 所以,标题应该这样写: 为什么某些越南女人嫁给中国台湾男人
 
Dor Kimp
Answered Apr 27, 2016
Sigh There are so many of these types of questions already. Saying X hates Y is a very big and overally generalised statement In all countries and cultures, there are people with different opinions and feelings. Besides when you talk about nationalistic hate, it is more about politics and abstract concepts than actual feeling Women who hate the Chinese would obviously not marry a Chinese, women who marry a Chinese obviously don't hate the Chinese. You don't marry people who you hate. Of course if you marry a man and have children with him you would not teach your children to hate their dad or their dad's family (except some arguably do just to get back at unreasonable in-laws) I'm not sure about identity crisis. There are many Vietnamese mixed Chinese and they seem to fit perfectly with Vietnamese culture. They don't feel any crisis that I'm aware of since Vietnamese and Chinese cultures are very similar. You can blend both perfectly well together. People don't really let historical events interfere with their lives. And current political problems are generally far away from people's lives, except if there is a war or direct invasion 如今,类似的提问太多了。说谁讨厌谁,太笼统了 不同国家,不同文化,人们的观点不同,感受不同。谈到民族主义仇恨,更多是有关政治,而不是真实感受 讨厌中国人的越南女人,显然不会嫁给中国人。嫁给中国人的越南女人当然不会讨厌中国人了 你总不会嫁给自己讨厌的人吧。都已经为他生儿育女了,难道你还会教孩子讨厌爹? 有很多中越混血,已经完美融入到越南文化中,毕竟越南文化和中国文化渊源很深,可以完美融合在一起。 人们不会把历史拿出来说事,不会让历史影响当下生活。政治距离老百姓太遥远了,除非爆发战争,否则人们对这些无感。
 
Tuan Minh, I'm Vietnamese.
Answered Apr 27, 2016
Hello. "A large portion" of Vietnamese hate Chinese. Not most, not all. And what they hate is actually China government, and, Chinese generally, not down to individual. When a Vietnamese China-hater woman in the group above, meet a Chinese (rich or handsome or both) as individual, she might not have that hatred. And after marriage, she can still hates China government and Chinese as general, just not the person she is married to. Anyway, I believe most Vietnamese women who marry Chinese, is just for the money, because they're poor, few couples have true love. Bonus: About Taiwan. Almost 100% Vietnamese consider Taiwan is a independent country, which have nothing related to China (although the Vietnamese government does not acknowledge Taiwan officially due to diplomatic reason). Taiwan has better reputation, and is known to produce high quality good, while China good often considered as cheap but poor quality, will soon break down. 大部分越南人讨厌中国人 如果一位本来讨厌中国的越南女人,碰到一位中国高富帅,也许恨不起来。婚后,她会仍然讨厌中国,仍然对中国人这个群体抱着讨厌情绪,当然不讨厌自己的中国丈夫。 嫁给中国人的越南女人,大多数是看上钱,自己穷嘛。少数是真爱 关于台湾,越南人几乎都认为台湾是一个独立国家, 认为台湾和中国大陆没有关联。(虽然外交上,越南政府并未承认台湾) 台湾的名声好,台湾商品质量杠杠的,而中国货被视为廉价的,质量不行,容易坏。
 
Duy Thanh Nguyễn, just a Vietnamese. Answer for your question is quite simple: Money. :) Most of women who married Chinese/Taiwanese/Malaysians, especially ones who married old men, are paid a large among of money (not so much for the foreigner, thank to currency difference). Most of them grow up in poor family and that money can help their family build a new house, or help their brother/sister have money to go to school. After marriage, if she is lucky, she will be able support their family. But if she is unlucky, there is nightmare waiting for her after marriage. 嫁给中国大陆人、台湾人和马来西亚人的越南女人,特别是嫁给老男人的,家人大多数能拿到一大笔钱(当然对外国人来说这点钱不算多) 大多数是在贫穷家庭长大的,那些钱可以用来为家人建新房子,让弟弟妹妹上得起学。婚后,幸运的的话,还可以资助娘家人。不幸运的话,婚后生活就是一场噩梦 Actually, there are many reports about violence, scam, etc. for foreign marriage. Women may be live happily, or may be live under violence of their own husband, or may be worse, being sold to prostitution, etc. The women, who has been sent to abroad, have no connection with family or local government, have difficulty in communication. -> They can not escape if there’s any problem. I have heard about many painful story. But people still risk their own live, for their family… 涉外婚姻,很多传出家暴。有些过得幸福,有些忍受着丈夫的家暴,更悲惨的,有些被卖掉当妓女。嫁到国外的女人,跟家人没联系,在当地沟通又不方便。碰到问题,不能逃跑了事。我听过好多令人痛心疾首的故事。不过,为了家人过得幸福,这些女孩子还是冒着生命危险嫁到国外。 There are cases where the women are forced to marriage foreign men by parents who are gambling addiction or debt but it’s minority. There are also love between Vietnamese women and foreign men but as I said, it’s rare and only between success/modern women who have decent knowledge and foreigner men who have been known each other for a while. 有些是父母赌博上瘾,欠了一屁股债,只能嫁给外国男人,帮忙还债,不过这种是少数。 当然,也有真爱的。通常是越南现代成功女性,受教育程度高,知识丰富,跟外国男人相互间有着一段时间了解的那种。
 
Anonymous To be more precise, Vietnamese don't hate Chinese, but hate Chinese government. Therefore, there is nothing wrong to get married to a Chinese person. Besides, there are a lot of Vietnamese girls getting married to Taiwanese, Koreans, Japanese, etc. Another reason I should mention here is the escalation of human trafficking along the borders. Many Vietnamese girls are kidnapped then sold to single men in other countries. Of course, China is right next to Vietnam and has around 30 million single men due to its ridiculous sex ratio. As you might already know, where there is demand, there will be supply. 准确地说,越南人不讨厌中国人,而是讨厌中国 所以,嫁给中国人并没有错。有很多越南女孩嫁给了台湾人、韩国人和日本人... 还有一个要提的是,边界上的人口走私越来越严重了。许多越南女孩被绑架,然后卖给国外的光棍 中国紧挨着越南,由于性别比例失衡,光棍有3000万呢, 哪里有需求,哪里就有市场。
 
Anonymous
Answered Apr 27, 2016
The world is not black and white. Why would every Vietnamese hate every Chinese and v.v.? Please, don't try to understand the world by reading biased books and media, it's always more complex than what you are being told. The Vietnamese have had a controversial relationship with the Chinese for over 2000 years, that's true. But for the most part, the two countries have had peaceful relations and engaged in trade, commerce, with Vietnam adopting clearly more from the Chinese than the other way round. 这个世界并非“非黑即白”。哪里会每个越南人都讨厌中国人。别看了几本书,就来指点江山好不好,这个世界永远比你想象中的更复杂。 2000多年来,越南和中国的渊源很深,纷争不断,不过大多数时期是和平相处的,两国开展着贸易商业往来。显然,越南受中国的影响更深。 China is not a monolith (nor is Vietnam, by the way). The Southern Chinese, especially Cantonese culture is very close to the Vietnamese, Hong Kong movies have been a great success in Vietnam (think of Stephen Chow), hundreds of thousands of Vietnamese have emigrated to Hong Kong or Taiwan, so the Vietnamese actually do admire the success of the Chinese, they opened up the economy just as the Chinese did and so on. The relationship to the Beijing government may not be the best, but that's the level of high politics, the every day person is much more practical than that. In a similar way, Vietnam fought for decades against the French and the Americans, but the Vietnamese are very practical and now cooperate with both countries, despite the historical enmity. So why would ordinary Vietnamese have any reason to be politically minded and reject someone just because of their nationality or even teach their kids to hate other people? 中国南方文化,特别是广东文化,跟越南人有着千丝万缕的联系。香港电影在越南取得了巨大成功。比如周星驰就大受欢迎。 成千上万越南人移民香港和台湾。越南人佩服的是中国人的成功。 中越关系也许不顺,不过也仅限于政治层面。老百姓其实挺务实的。 以前越南人就跟法国人和美国人打了几十年的仗,现在摒弃前嫌,关系还不是好好的。 所以,越南老百姓没理由去讨厌某个国家的人啊,更不会教孩子去讨厌谁谁谁。
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